Ever you guys heard this phrase “only you can make yourself happy” ? Seriously if you take awhile to work those brain cells, its true! Even if the whole world tries to make you happy, shower you with the desires of your heart, give you all the love you would ever need, if we’re still negative in thinking, skeptical in thinking, we won’t even feel happy at all. From this i can safely conclude and reaffirm the title; “I think; therefore, I am” – it all begins in the head.
A recent survey by the American Psychological Association has revealed that the most important factor to happiness, as defined by most Americans, is self-esteem. Feelings that were associated with high self-esteem were feelings of self-competency and independence. Therefore I would like to strongly highlight the importance of self-esteem and the above title.
I’m very sure most of you guys have sometimes in your life thought to yourself “Wow that was stupid”. Ok that voice was what I would call it the “judgemental internal voice”. Everyone will have this little voice in your head and its there to judge you in the things you do; lets take a scenario of a runner coming in second; the runner could say to himself these things “That was alright at least i came in second”- clearly showing that his internal voice is telling him to be complacent, “Damned why dint i run faster”- he’s putting the blame on himself and lastly “I can do better the next time”- it shows his optimism. See what and how your judgemental voice directly coincides with the way you think? Even the words you speak in your mind are important!
Sometimes the judgemental voice insides us will get critical, often happens when we are unable to meet the standards set by the media or other strong influences such as friends, they are powerful and can sway the way we think very easily when we have low self-esteem. However, our judgemental voice serves to help us avoid potential failure or rejection. It will prevent us from doing things that would result in akward and uncomfortable situations. This is the commonly identified as the “you can’t do it” voice, one of the key reasons to low self-esteem.
But the good news is that it is entirely possible to maintain a healthy self-esteem even when we’re protecting ourselves. For example, you could place less importance on the opinion other’s have on you or just emphasize on the positive or you could just ignore that voice. It is very important that when we make these judgement in our heads that we should also, and always, listen more to the rational part of ourselves so that we can easily adjust to any unreasonable critism.
Self-esteem is something that can be decerned easily. A positive person with high self-esteem would more likely be capable than another person, even of the same calibre, because of high self-esteem, the positiive guy would more likely able to unlesh his potential as he would have the guts to explore further than a person who is insecure and chooses to stay in his comfort zone. However there will always be both sides to the coin, a negative self-esteem could also encourage change, hard work, personal growth and success but ultimately this negative self-esteem would change into a positive one.
You are responsible for yourself.
One thing, i ask.
